When you are casually dating, và you haven’t settled on one single guy for a relationship, what you are looking for in a guy could be entirely different than what you want for a long-term relationship. The guy that you have the most fun with might not be the best relationship material. Before jumping inlớn a serious relationship with someone you’ve been dating, you should ask these 21 questions.
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#1 Do you have my back no matter what?
Taking your relationship to the next màn chơi can be very scary, và you need lớn know that you can fully trust your partner. Ask them upfront if they have sầu your baông xã no matter what, even when they are mad at you or have sầu issues. You need khổng lồ know that thichồng và thin. They will be there for you.
#2 What vày you consider cheating?
Different people have different views on cheating. Some women think that looking at a picture of someone of the opposite sex is cheating, or having a Facebook frikết thúc that is a woman could be cheating. In reality, these things should not be considered cheating because that would be indicative of controlling behavior. Yet cheating might mean different things lớn different people. One person might think sex is cheating, while someone else might consider a simple kiss cheating. You must be both on the same page from the get-go.
#3 How much honesty bởi vì you feel needed in a relationship?
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You need to lớn know that your partner is going to lớn be honest with you no matter what, but at the same time, you don’t want someone who is going lớn be so brutally honest that they hurt your feelings all the time. Talk khổng lồ your boyfriover about how much honesty they feel is needed and healthy.
#4 How vị you think you’ve changed over the last few years?
Everyone should constantly be working toward being a better version of themselves. With every situation you face & every failed relationship you are in, you learn something more about yourself that you can use to improve yourself. Asking this question of a guy gives you some insight into how well they are in touch with themselves & their own needs và whether they are likely to evolve.
#5 What bởi vì you want out of this relationship?
Make sure that you are both on the same page about where the relationship might go. Asking your guy what they want out of the relationship is your way to know what you might expect in the future. If you are marriage-minded và your boyfriend is not, you need khổng lồ know that right away so that neither of you is wasting the other’s time.
#6 How bởi you giảm giá with difficult situations?
It is important to lớn know what coping skills your potential boyfrikết thúc might have for difficult situations that you might face. Couples go through all types of difficult situations, và at first, a lot of discussion and compromise is needed as you find your way through the muddy relationship waters. If your guy is quick khổng lồ anger và has difficulty communicating during times of trouble, now is the time for you lớn know that lớn decide if it is a deal-breaker.
#7 Why didn’t your last relationship work out?
In some cases, the answer to lớn this will be very straightforward, such as “she cheated on me.” But most often, when a relationship fails, it is the fault of both parties, or it might have been just an incompatibility issue. An enlightened individual ready for a serious relationship will answer this question objectively & assume some responsibility.
#8 How did you giảm giá with your emotions và feelings growing up?
This is an important question because the answer will tell you if you can expect your boyfriover to communicate their thoughts & emotions. The question also opens up an opportunity for your guy to show some growth by explaining the difference in how they now khuyến mãi with emotions & feelings.
#9 What vị you personally think of your friends’ relationships?
The answer khổng lồ this question will give sầu you some valuable insight inkhổng lồ what your boyfriend thinks of as a good relationship. They are likely khổng lồ give sầu you an example of a good relationship or an example of a bad relationship, or both if they know more than one married couple.
#10 Do you feel that we make each other better people?
The goal of any relationship is to lớn be better together than you are apart. If you and your guy don’t make each other into lớn better people, that negates part of the point of being in a relationship. If you và your guy bring out the worst in each other, a serious relationship probably isn’t a healthy choice.
#11 What bởi you value most about our relationship?
The answer to lớn this question will give sầu you an idea of how serious your guy is about taking your relationship to the next cấp độ. If they say something superficial lượt thích sex or having fun, you’ll know that you are wasting your time.
#12 Do you want kids?
Asking your guy if they want kids is an important question that you should ask before you get too serious. If you are marriage-minded and are looking for a life-long partner, you need khổng lồ know if you are on the same page regarding kids, whether you want them or not.
#13 What things won’t you compromise on?
Everyone has deal-breakers that they will not compromise on. You & your partner need to discuss your giảm giá khuyến mãi breakers and make sure you are both on the same page. If something is blachồng và Trắng and you can’t agree, now is the time lớn discover that instead of years down the road when it counts.
#14 Will your parents & friends be a problem?
Sometimes guys have a toxic family, or they have nosy friends against them being in a serious relationship for whatever reason. You must know what you are getting yourself into lớn before it starts. Asking this question ensures there are no surprises, và you can decide if it’s worth it.
#15 What are your top priorities?
It’s really up to lớn you what you consider to lớn be a reasonable answer lớn this question. Most guys are going to lớn say career, money, & you. If you are not one of their top priorities, you are wasting your time. Of course, they should make themselves a priority as well, but you should be up toward the top of the danh sách.
#16 What are your views on women?
If you have sầu been dating casually, you may not know your guy’s views on women. Some guys can come off as very nice but be very chauvinistic in their behavior và attitudes. You need lớn make sure that their views on women do not conflict with your female empowerment views.
#17 How important is sex khổng lồ you?
For some guys, sex is extremely important, & without it, they are not going khổng lồ be happy in the relationship. If this is the case, you need khổng lồ know that going in so that you can decide if that is something you are willing to give inlớn. Some women are perfectly okay with having very frequent sex, but others are not, và you need lớn make sure you’re on the same page.
#18 What are your religious và political views?
When you first start dating someone, you want lớn avoid topics about religion and politics because you want lớn get to know each other without these controversial subjects getting in the way. But if you plan on taking your relationship to the next màn chơi, you & your guy need to lớn either be on the same page or be able to lớn agree to lớn disagree.
#19 Do independent women scare you?
If you are an independent woman và don’t rely on a man, you need lớn be upfront about that khổng lồ your boyfriover and allow hyên ổn to back out. Asking this question lets you know if your guy can handle a serious relationship with a strong woman.