A family is a key factor that significantly affects the growth of every person in Vietnamese belief và is an important part ofVietnamese culture. Therefore, the Vietnamese always put their family first and take many efforts to maintain the traditional Vietnamese family values.
Vietnamese Family Unity và Harmony ahy vọng Family Members
In traditional Vietnamese family values, multiple generations are living together khổng lồ take care of each other. A typical extended family in Vietphái mạnh often includes grandparents, parents,and children. Moving out of the family at the age of 18 is not comtháng in Vietnam giới, and the Vietnamese still live sầu with their family until they get married. Sometimes, other relatives such as uncles, aunts, and cousins can also live sầu under one roof.
An extended family
A good relationship with all of our relatives and being loyal lớn the family is really important because we have sầu a popular saying of “mot giot mau dao hon ao nuoc la” meaning that “blood is thicker than water”. We can help each other when someone has difficulties. However, sometimes the number of relatives counts up more than a few dozens, causing some troubles with remembering và calling all of them with the right titles like uncles, aunts, or sister-in-law.
In the families, the workload is shared aước ao the members. The oldest man is usually the head of the household, making most of the vital decisions on economic and social matters. On the other hvà, women take responsibility for housework và raising the kids. The grandparents sometimes help with nurturing their grandchildren.
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The quarrels between members are frowned upon. They try khổng lồ avoid the arguments to lớn keep the family’s consensus. If there is any dispute, the head of that family will act as a judge. That is also whydivorce was really rare in Vietnamese society in the past. Women believed that they should sacrifice for their husbands and children. They usually handled và tolerated all the unfair treatment to lớn keep the peace for the children’s sake.
Respect for the Seniors in the Family
In traditional Vietnamese family values, people are taught khổng lồ give sầu the seniors, especially in their families, absolute respect. In our minds, the elders have gained more experiences in life; they know what is correct, what is wrong, so the younger ones should try to lớn follow their instructions & listen lớn their advice.
Obedience is an obligation for every kid until they can be independent và can earn money for living. In the older times, especially in the countryside, the children even have lớn marry the ones assigned by parents or grandparents. Although the society is more open nowadays, some families still maintain this traditional custom because the families believe sầu that the elders know best.In communication, when talking lớn the elders, people must use honorific titles lớn show respect for the seniors & add “vang”, “da”, or “thua” before và after any conversations.
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These traditional Vietnamese family values are also expressed through the table manners. In some rural areas in Vietnam, there are different trays of food in the same meals in a family. They often Điện thoại tư vấn “upper trays” which means the trays of foods for the seniors, for the men in that family. These trays sometimes have sầu better food or freshly cooked dishes. And the other trays of food which is called “lower trays” are usually for housewives, women và the kids in the family.
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Some people criticize this is gender discrimination. On the other hvà, others clalặng that this division aims khổng lồ connect everyone better. The men can talk about business or essential topics while drinking some beer & wines. Meanwhile, women can look after the kids & enjoy the food more comfortably.
In some families, at the beginning of each meal, the offspring have to invite the elders before starting to eat in the correct order of hierarchy, from the eldest lớn the youngest on the eating tables. While eating, the younger also give sầu the best part of the food to lớn the elders to lớn show their respect. The children have sầu chances to learn about traditional Vietnamese family values day by day thanks to the small habits lượt thích those above.
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Vietnamese Family Values in Daily Meals
To Vietnamese, having meals every day with other family members is extremely important, especially at dinner. It is one of the most crucial customs in traditional Vietnamese family values.In our belief, this is the time of the day when a family can gather & strike up conversations with each other. Parents usually ask the children about their days, how they get through a day, or if there is something new lớn them.
This endearing habit was formed from the early history of Vietphái mạnh and is still maintained by most families as a way to connect all the members. The image of a round tray of food put in the middle of a rectangular mat has become a symbol of Vietnamese cuisine culture.
Vietnamese tray of food
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Family meals are entirely different from the meals at restaurants or food stalls, they are much simpler, and foods lượt thích Pho, Vietnamese banh ngươi baguette, or some kinds of noodles are for banquets only. Every dish in the family meals is planned & prepared carefully by the housewives to balance the nutrition for their family members.
Those are the reasons why people away from trang chính always rethành viên the joyful family meals cooked by their moms và their grandmothers. People who often enjoy family meals in the warm atmosphere usually respect their families and also the traditional Vietnamese family values.
Vietnamese Family Values in Tet Holiday
Tet holiday, also known as Lunar New Year, is one of the most important occasions & festivals in the years of Vietnamese society, the beginning of the good và new things. However, the main reason that all Vietnamese always looking forward khổng lồ the Tet holiday is that Tet is the main occasion in the year when family members away from home page travel across the country or baông chồng to lớn Vietnam to lớn celebrate the holiday together with their families. The second holiday that families gather, though not all celebrate, is the Mid-autumn festival.
Vietnamese family in the Tet Holiday
All members together, clean, and decorate the house with a branch of peach blossom and apricot blossom or a kumquat tree; then shop khổng lồ prepare for Tet và enjoy the most delicious new year dishes that only eaten in Tet occasions such as sticky rice cake (banh chung), fruit jams, and Vietnamese pork sausage.
On the very first day of the Lunar New Year, the offsprings come to lớn the grandparents’ trang chính and give them the best wishes. All the relatives & cousins meet and chit-chat for a long time. Then, everyone comes to lớn a local pagoda or temple lớn visit and pray for the best things tocome for their families. During Tet festival, people also invite & welcome their ancestors baông chồng lớn enjoy this important holiday with descendants. This is a part of folk religion, known as ancestral worship, in Vietphái mạnh.
One thing that is particularly special in traditional Vietnamese Tet is giving out lucky money. The adults give tiny red money envelopes khổng lồ the kids, và the young ones also give lucky money to lớn the elders like parents & grandparents, which means giving them more luck và best wishes for the new year.